Fat People Don’t Change! Stop Wasting Your Time…


There’s an old saying out there that goes “A leopard never changes his spots”, you’ve heard that, right?

I think the same applies to the majority of fat people; they love food, and that’s never going to change, it’s who they are, hell it’s who I AM!

What confuses me is why we try so hard to fight who we are instead of just accepting exactly that.

I’m not just picking on fat people; that’d be pretty stupid picking on myself, wouldn’t it?

People Don’t Change

The same goes for all types of people; fruit and veg lovers, their never gonna drop the carrot & celery sticks, music lovers won’t hang up their headphones, and film lovers won’t stop watching the latest blockbusters; the types of people this applies to is truly endless. The point is some of the things that we love, that we’ve always loved can become bad for us if we allow them to consume us.

I understand some people eat for a number of different reasons such as, emotional, depression, boredom, stress etc etc, but that’s not what I’m talking about today.

Take me and you for instance, we love food right, but maybe (in my case defiantly!) we love it a little too much and that’s why we’ve gained weight and got fat. Everyone loves to eat nice foods, but the difference between them and us is food isn’t their “thing”, you know their “THING!” I could talk about food on and on, talking about the best places I’ve eaten, amazing recipes, what I’m planning for dinner next June, and then there the actually eating, and it’s all because food is my THING.

(From now on “thing” is what I’m going to use when I’m talking about a person’s love, like food or music etc,)

Positive to negative

Everyone should have a “thing” and I think most do; that’s great, it’s a passion, it’s a love, but in some cases there comes a time when that love becomes a negative. It’s not just our food thing that has negatives attached, far from it.

Think about someone that loves video games, that’s his thing; he loves playing them as much as he can which has grown over time, so much so, he now spends 10-12 hours a day playing them, we both know that’s no good for his life, and he has allowed his thing to consume him and turn negative. At that rate, it will push have an effect on his social life, his goals and even his health.

Here’s the deal, whatever your “thing” is, you’re never going to give it up, it’s as simple as that, you will never give it up so just stop trying. Really, you’re wasting your time.

Ok Fine! There’s gonna be some people out there that’ll prove me wrong, there always will be, and I take my hat off to those that have the ridiculous amount of strength, determination and will power needed to stop doing something they love, and quite frankly the majority of us don’t have the willpower, want or desire to cut the things we love out of our life. I certainly don’t.

A better way?

Instead, why don’t we spend all that time and energy managing our thing instead of torturing ourselves day-in-day-out to give it up? There has to be a happy balance out there, sure it’s not going to be quick or easy to find, but wouldn’t that be a million times better? Being able to enjoy the things we love in such a way without negatively affect our lives, not only is this the right way live, it’s the realistic way to live.

I mean come on, you know what it’s like, the second you tell yourself you’re not allowed something, what do you want? Duh! It’s like from that point on your brain thinks of nothing but…you can see how this is gonna go can’t you. It’s gonna be soooooooo much fun…or not!

Think you’re stronger than that, ok, try this; read the next paragraph, and do exactly what it says…are you ready tough guy!

He goes, don’t think about zebras, you know zebras…they look like donkeys just with black and white stripes…yes that’s it, zebras, you know what they look like, right? WHAO! What are you doing?!? You’re thinking about zebras…what did I tell you not to do! Better luck next time buddy!

How was that (I ask knowing the answer!) You thought of them didn’t you, of course you did, and that’s what I’m talking about, it takes 10x more effort trying not to do something that it does simply managing it.

Live real, live realistic

I’m not saying reducing you chocolate bar obsession/addiction from 5 bars a day to 1 a day will be easy because it won’t be, I not gonna lie to ya, BUT, and this is the biggest but of them all, that 1 chocolate bar that you do have will be the best bar in the entire world. Hands down. Knowing that you can have that is what will get you through and eventually be normal. Your less likely to snap and binge on chocolate because you’re still getting what you want, your just managing it rather than cutting yourself off cold turkey only to be surrounded by chocolate (we surrounded by bad foods everywhere we go today) and finally cave in. I personally love fast foods and takeaways, have I stopped eating them all together, no! I enjoy a takeaway each and every week without fail.


I’ll tell you something else, if you do try and go cold turkey and snap, the second after you’ve killed the 10th chocolate bar you will feel like HELL, I’m not kidding I’ve been there, you’ll feel like a cheat, a let-down, a fat failure and that leads to nothing good; it’s the express lane to comfort eating because of what you did; because you’re sick of your weight and the problems its causing you.

This is the vicious circle that I expect a lot of you have first-hand experience in, you know how hard it is to break so why would you ever want do something that could lead you back there?


What’s your opinion?

Do you agree with me or do you think I’m way off the mark?

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Darran Mansfield

Hi! I'm Darran Mansfield, I've been on the Slimming World diet for about 10 months, and I've lost 5 and a half stone (74lbs/34kgs), I'm by no means a weight loss expert, but I do have first hand experience, and that's what I'm here to share with you. I'm looking for a healthy, sustainable lifestyle that's enjoyable yet maintainable in today's modern life. If that's what you want, you should stick around, I'm sure you'll find something helpful and don't forget to say hi to me on Facebook, Twitter, Google+ or Instagram.

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